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Just an Ordinary Day--That's Irony

April 16th, 2007 at 06:38 am

Sorry, nothing financial today. Too distracted. A lot of things happened today. Well, two things happened today. The first was my parent-in-laws 40th Anniversary party, which was quite lovely and went very well. Fast forward.

The second was about the little girl who had the ectopic pregnancy. Actually, it was the boyfriend who came to talk to me, because her parents wouldn't let him see her anymore. Said she trusted me so he was going to try to, too. He wasn't upset, he was terrified. I don't think I've ever seen someone look so frightened in my life.

I knew there had to be more going on just from what he wasn't saying and the way he wasn't saying it, but I finally got it out of him, because he wanted to tell someone. He didn't get her pregnant. He agreed to say he did to try to protect her. She was raped by a seventeen year old cousin who was living in her home and threatened her if she told the truth. He was only her "boyfriend" to hang out with her to keep the other guy from getting around her as much as possible, but the only thing he ever did was hold her hand to pass himself off as a boyfriend.

He did not know what to do, but he was scared to leave her alone. He was scared to talk to his own parents because of all the lies the two of them told in all of this and because he was afraid the cousin would hurt the girl again. Everyone thought he was the villian of this piece. Can you imagine a fifteen year old boy taking all this on himself? I don't even have the words.

Well, I had words, just not on that. Talked to both sets of the parents, talked to the girl, and talked to the cops when her parents called them, which I would have done if they hadn't. Cousin admitted everything, thank goodness, and is out of the home and in juvenile detention tonight.

And the "boyfriend," the only one she trusted, is allowed back around the girl, as long as he isn't a real "boyfriend." And her parents? I told them they better start talking to their daughter because she was too scared to come to them when she needed them most. It's a different age. We have to make sure our children come to us when they are in trouble and the only way to do that is to communicate all the time. Every day.

I am so proud of that boy, trying to protect her. Even if he was misguided, his heart was in the right place.

9 Responses to “Just an Ordinary Day--That's Irony”

  1. littlemama Says:

    Sounds like a young man with a very big heart.

  2. Elly Says:

    Wow! Kudos to you for handling this so well!

  3. newlyfrugal Says:

    Amazing how things can look one way and be completely the opposite. Great job keeping a level head and helping everyone out with this tough situation. You truly are a great friend!

  4. debtfreeme Says:

    wow, what an amazing young man. i hope they both know they can come and talk to you, and to their parents in the future.

  5. shadon Says:

    See, now that's the sort of boy I would be happy to be my 14yo DD's boyfriend.

    Glad everything has come to light and steps can now be taken for justice and the healing can begin. It must have been such an awful burden on these two young people's shoulders, to keep such a terrible event secret.

  6. jodi Says:

    And thank goodness they trusted you enough to come clean - and that you did the right thing. What a burden to carry for that boy.

  7. homebody Says:

    I'm speechless. You can't make this stuff up can you!

  8. kashi Says:

    OMG. That poor, poor girl.

    I am glad the truth came out in the end.

  9. carol Says:

    What a heart breaker. That poor kid. And what a brave boy to come to you for help. I'm so glad that some things got straightened out.

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