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Got Hit Up for Money

July 4th, 2016 at 11:08 am

I got hit up for money from my nephew today. It took me a lot not to blow a gasket, because I know he doesn't know anything about what is going on right now with DH getting laid off, so I had to take a few deep breaths and responded with a terse message that DH was out of work at month's end. It's just that it's not the first time. This is a yearly thing and it's usually in the Christmas newsletter, but this was more direct. Right now is just bad timing.

He's in ministry, but he's not a pastor or minister or missionary, and it's a pledge situation for ongoing support, but it's not really the type I feel like supporting even at the best of times. It's working with college athletes and ministering through sports and I don't support athletics in schools in general. I think it takes away from the purpose of school which is to educate and also funnels money away from education. Not to mention how strongly active rape culture is in athletics.

If I were to give to faith based charities, it would be to the homeless kids shelter or the homeless women's shelter, both issues I have supported at times in the past.

He wanted to work in a faith based situation, he wanted to work in sports, and he chose a job that is not self-supporting. I'm sorry he can't support his wife and 3 kids, but I can't support them either.

6 Responses to “Got Hit Up for Money”

  1. creditcardfree Says:

    Yep, bad timing. Supporting your family is the most important task.

  2. Joan.of.the.Arch Says:

    I'm wondering if you said it as directly to him as you did in that very last line of your blog entry, "I'm sorry he can't support his wife and 3 kids, but I can't support them either." His wife isn't bringing in enough either? If you have become simply part of his fund-raising mailing list, don't forget to tell him to take you off the list.

  3. ThriftoRama Says:

    Hmm. So it's not actually a paying gig. He's relying on donations to entirely fund this endeavor and pay his home bills? I'm thinking that isn't such a great choice of career trajectories with a wife and kids to support.

    I wouldn't feel bad if I were you. You're in a tough spot that you're trying to make the best of just to stay afloat, and honestly, his work isn't in line with your values.

  4. PatientSaver Says:

    I fully support your rationale for not contributing. I think you've been pretty generous in the past and you have your own needs to worry about. I respect you a great deal for not caving to any kind of pressure from him.

  5. LuckyRobin Says:

    Thanks for the support. It helps a lot.

  6. FrugalTexan75 Says:

    I also think you did the right thing.

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