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Our Christmas Weekend

December 26th, 2006 at 08:05 am

The last two days went pretty well for the most part. Two no spend days in a row. Of course, nothing was open today but the casino, so that makes it pretty easy to not spend, and only someone with the patience of a saint would have gone into a store on Christmas Eve. Which, if you were wondering, does not even remotely describe me.

Yesterday was good, nothing bad at all happened, the Ice Queen was even there and she was actually (gasp) nice. Maybe she's thawing out after all these years of being, well, the Ice Queen. It would be nice to have two sisters who actually behaved like sisters instead of just one.

Today was great for most of the day until my husband's uncle showed up at MIL's house. He was NOT supposed to be there. He was not invited. We called and made sure that he was not to be there. It was a very tense 10 minutes before he left. I was about to take the kids and run. This man is nuts.

When my little boy was four years old, this man kicked him out of his chair by physically lifting him up and tossing him on the ground and then sat down in the chair himself, even though there were plenty of other chairs and my son had been sitting in this one for a good twenty minutes. Well, T got mad at him and said, "Hey, that's my chair, give it back." He was ignored. He said it again, and was still ignored. He then said, "If you don't give me my chair back I am going to kick you." Again he was ignored. So my son kicked him. His reaction? To strangle my son.

And then when DH stopped him he claimed my son gave him a migraine by kicking him. I mean, hello? Unless your head is your butt (which in his case that very well could be), you aren't going to get a migraine from being kicked by a barefoot four year old (not to mention he was playing volleyball one hour later in the full sun, and he has a migraine?). I do not believe my son should have kicked him, though if I had been treated the same way at that age, I would have. Heck, I might have done it NOW. It's not like my son did not warn him or try to solve it himself first.

Then the uncle tried to claim that T could be taken away from his parents for assault, to the boy. At age four! And he said it was an unprovoked attack. I'm sorry? If you toss a kid to the ground how is that unprovoked? Well, we talked to the police the next day and they laughed at that line and said no way would a four year old ever by charged with assault. Which we knew anyway. But we were advised to never, ever let this man anywhere near our kids again. And we hadn't had any contact with him for 2.5 years.

The police said it was up to us whether to press charges or not but it most likely wouldn't make it to court, so we chose just to sever all contact. Seeing him again enraged me. Especially since he was uninvited. DH and FIL did form a barrier so he couldn't get past them to where my kids were and I wouldn't look in his direction or even acknowledge he was in the room.

It was very prickly until he left. I am glad he did. I did not want to have to. It took a bit to calm T down, he is still afraid of this man even though we haven't seen him or talked to him in so long. He ran and hid. He seems to be fine since then, but I will not be surprised if he starts having nightmares again like he did after it happened.

Other than that, it was a good day, though. With good food and good company and DH and I scored big with a really nice weight bench.

6 Responses to “Our Christmas Weekend”

  1. yummy64 Says:
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    What a horrid sounding man. I hope your son quickly forgets he was even around for microsecond!

    I'm glad your Christmas was otherwise wonderful!

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  3. homebody Says:
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    Maybe it's too late for this, but did you consider a restraining order? I am sorry this happened.

  4. Thrifty Ray Says:
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    The police were right...anyone who would toss a child out of a chair and then strangle them has no business being around children. Clearly, the guy needs help...but you are so right to keep the kids away....your poor son.

  5. LuckyRobin Says:
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    What always got me is that he claimed he was defending himself. We talked about a restraining order but it is a huge hassle to file one and we hadn't seen him since then until yesterday. Now that we know for sure that the family will jump to our defense (they said they would, but this was the first time for us to see it in action) and block his access to our kids, we feel much better. But we will not allow it to happen again. Told MIL and FIL that he needed to be talked to and not allowed in the house when we are there.

  6. baselle Says:
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    Wow, a nut even more nutty than my Nut. Still might pursue the restraining order just in case. Coming to MIL and FIL's might have been a test.

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